"If you are with a man you don't trust, it is only because you prefer unsurrendered love to surrendering wide open in total trust. It feels safe. You are afraid to let go of control--part of you doesn't trust love's command--so you have chosen a man who doesn't demand your surrender with his depth of integrity. If you did trust the command of love, you would only settle for a deep man capable of opening you more deeply than you could instruct him."
--From "Dear Lover," a book by David Deida